Dating - Coming Out? Help?

[Autumn Jewel]

Ok, I hope I'm posting this in the right place, so here it goes.

I'm thinking about joining a dating website again. I did so about 7 years ago, went through an 8 month sorta long distance (2 hour drive) relationship. We had different wants and needs so we mutually called it off. Anyway, I haven't dated since, and have been quite happy being single and my own person. But lately I've been feeling like I need to start looking for Mr. Right again. But if I'm going to do this, being a witch is not something I want to hide for the rest of my life. On the other hand, it's not something easily acceptable. People are more open to being atheism than witchcraft and Wicca. I don't want to waste my time going on 1 or 2 dates, then telling them I'm a witch just to have them not understand and call it off. How do I go about doing this? Please help?

[Ivy]

Does being a witch make you different from other daters? Ask yourself some tough questions about what you expect. Do you look different, act different, do you carry a broom and wear a pointy hat? How deep are your beliefs?

[SnowCat]

It could be that a compatible gentleman of the pagan persuasion is feeling a similar pull about Mrs. Right. That might be part of why you're getting nudges. I was open with my husband from the beginning. That might not work for everyone. Have you looked for pagan oriented dating sites and activities? I probably should have looked back at your intro, but are you herbally or plant oriented? A gardening club, other interstate appropriate club might be a good place to meet someone. I haven't dated in many years. I'm not current on the protocol.

Snow

[Myrth]

My husband and I met online, on a site catering to horse people. I wanted someone with compatible interests. I went out with several that didn't work out. I took a subtle approach. I said I am spiritual but not religious, which is accurate because I am not in any organized religion. I only went out with guys who chose that designation as well.

Once I met my future husband and knew I'd found someone of interest, we talked about our spiritual beliefs. I opened up slowly, over several discussions, revealing more each time. He was very receptive. While he is not a witch, he is a pagan. Our beliefs are very compatible.

[Autumn Jewel]

Does being a witch make you different from other daters? Ask yourself some tough questions about what you expect. Do you look different, act different, do you carry a broom and wear a pointy hat? How deep are your beliefs?

All great questions. I think I really need to do a serious mediation and write down all my thoughts.

It could be that a compatible gentleman of the pagan persuasion is feeling a similar pull about Mrs. Right. That might be part of why you're getting nudges. I was open with my husband from the beginning. That might not work for everyone. Have you looked for pagan oriented dating sites and activities? I probably should have looked back at your intro, but are you herbally or plant oriented? A gardening club, other interstate appropriate club might be a good place to meet someone. I haven't dated in many years. I'm not current on the protocol.

Snow

Sadly no, I'm not in any gardening clubs, nor do I know where there is one around here. I'm not much of a green thumb. Quite the opposite actually. I tend to be a plant killer.

My husband and I met online, on a site catering to horse people. I wanted someone with compatible interests. I went out with several that didn't work out. I took a subtle approach. I said I am spiritual but not religious, which is accurate because I am not in any organized religion. I only went out with guys who chose that designation as well.

Once I met my future husband and knew I'd found someone of interest, we talked about our spiritual beliefs. I opened up slowly, over several discussions, revealing more each time. He was very receptive. While he is not a witch, he is a pagan. Our beliefs are very compatible.

I think I'll look into seeing what kinds of sites are out there, instead of just the well know ones. But I think i will just stick with the spiritual but not religious option. And slowly open up later.

Thank you everybody.

[SnowCat]

I could most likely kill an artificial plant. If you're interested in crystals, you might check out rock and mineral shows and sites. Someone is out there.

Snow

[Lord_of_Nightmares]

Aren't there pagan dating sites?