Thank you for your input, Firebird, that gave me a little confidence. I just wish I knew what to do. I arrived in the USA over a year ago, and decided to marry and stay and have my little boy, and be together as a family. She uses that against me ''Well, YOU'RE the one who went over there without telling anyone'' (she and I were not talking at the time).
But in April last year, I told her I was having baby Si, I told her my due date, I kept her up to date with his development and also informed her when I was in labour (he arrived about 3 weeks early- Aug 13th). She said she'd be out August 25th to see him and I asked for a little space and time to settle into a routine with the newborn and she agreed. She said she'd visit in October, but when it came to it, nothing was good enough.
She didn't like any of the hotels in our little town, didn't want to stay at the beach, didn't want to stay with any locals. The nearest airport is 4 hours one-way (8 hour round trip - Norfolk, VA). Then it was ''Oh, get Wolf to drive you and Si up to Norfolk, we can all just stay there for a week. But you have to find the hotel and Wolf can't stay with us because I want it to be just family''. I said no. Needless to say, that visit didn't happen. Neither did a Christmas visit, nor a Feb visit, and now she's off for Easter for two weeks, again no visit.
My sister in law moved out here before Christmas, so there's a spare room and I wasted no time in telling Mum about this. I also reminded her again, recently. No response.
I may be sounding spoilt, but she works full-time, she also get a very healthy widows allowance since my Step Dad died and in the last 18 months she's had cosmetic surgery (done privately - a tummy tuck) and paid 6,000.00 GBP for a new bathroom. She said she needs a new roof this year and wants to know ASAP if she can visit in summer or not (because her friend had cancelled their summer holiday). Whenever she wants to buy baby Si something, I say we don't really need it, she says things like ''Oh, but I've missed out on everything so far....''
Wolf brings in maybe 800.00 USD a month, so we have to live with his Dad and I've had no luck with job hunting. We can't afford even a little passport for Baby.
Sorry, I really, really had to get this off my chest. It goes round and round in my head and it makes me cry and lose sleep.
I feel so sorry for Baby Si. He's 5000 miles away from all his English family and none of them have come to see him. He only ever sees my face and Wolf's face when he's home I'm worried I'll damage Baby in some way by not taking him to visit his family.
I feel like a terrible mother and maybe I should just go and visit, at least he'll have new people to look at?
- Mama - x-