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genderqueer....... I think?

Posted: Fri Jan 02, 2015 10:07 pm
by valerian moon
Sometimes I feel like a boy but mostly I feel tomboy. I identify as a demigirl, meaning mostly girl but something else too, or queer, genderqueer, gender ambiguous, androgynous... you get the picture. It could be my bpd, the unstable sense of self thing... but idk.
I dont really expect advice, I just needed to vent.

genderqueer....... I think?

Posted: Sat Jan 03, 2015 10:16 am
by RosieMoonflower
Hello! I've read somewhere that people with mental disorders, BPD, autism, asperger's, OCD, ADD, ADHD, etc, often feel androgynous themselves as well as are often attracted to androgynous looking people. I have asperger's myself and most of my life I've identified as a tomboy, I'm older and we didn't have better identifying words. So yes, I'm mostly female, but part of me is masculine. My fiancé has OCD. When we first met, he said " I love spending time with you. It's so easy. You're like a guy who is a beautiful woman", because of my somewhat masculine personality. I'm older now and have learned to accept it. I also understand that I am bisexual. I have not shared this with my fiancé yet though for two reasons. 1. I don't want him to get the wrong idea or not understand and get jealous for no reason, like if I'm hanging out with female friends. 2. I don't have any wishes to be with or date a woman. I'm committed to him. I've known since I was a little girl that I wanted a husband like my daddy. No amount of to boyishness could change that. So I don't feel it necessary to share it with him since it's not something I'm trying to explore any longer.