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Hi. Thanks for giving more detail. A lot of times when I did readings people would get upset when asked to provide details. It was like, "Just tell me what to do
right now, hurry up." I hope it didn't take you too long to write all that, but you definitely got the point across about your situation. And maybe it was therapeutic to get it all out, as well.
Now, it sounds like the cleanser did a good job for your wife and her ex, from the results you stated, that things did get better for them. It sounds like she did all the right things according to that spiritual path --the cleansing with the eggs, the Ojo de Venado (luckymojo.com/ojodevenado.html ) protective charm, etc. Those are common to certain Hispanic and African Diasporic magical practices.
But, that union between them is now dissolved, so whatever was done for her, regardless how good, doesn't apply anymore. There is a whole new energetic scenario going on now, since the two of you now have your own life together. And, it looks like a whole new set of problems, as well. So, I would forget all about the past "cleansing," and leave it in the past. New things need to be done now. It might take a while for you guys to clean up this energetic mess, but it can be done. And, since it sounds like you all have the sort of folks around you who are subject to do curse work, protective maintenance will have to be a part of life for you and your wife.
Man, see, this is why
I just hate it when people do things like this to other people, and then sit back and snicker at their handiwork. What a waste of life that is. Vindictive "you-took-my-man/woman-away-so-now-I'm-gonna'-curse-you" magical practices are, unfortunately, very, very frequent and rampant. Some folks just can't move on, and magic provides the perfect platform for their neurosis.
In my opinion --and that's all this is, someone else may have another opinion, and that's fine -- you guys are what's called in hoodoo, "under crossed conditions." Yeah, a person can just tell when just
too many things are going wrong too much of the time, and something else is up. I know I can. Here are some things I'm thinking might help. This is just good for any of us to do to slow down and hopefully stop a streak of bad luck, even if no one has put a curse on us. Changes and challenges are part of life. But we know when we're on a downward spiral that needs mitigating. And just as magic can be used to hurt, it could also be used successfully to help:
Work with a Spiritual Coach/Reader
Firstly, get a good reading done. Work with a spiritual worker who is reputable, experienced and effective. I will PM you some recommendations, and you could decide from there who you want to try. It's really helpful to work with someone who is spiritually sensitive enough (i.e., good at divination) to help you pinpoint details about the source of the negativity, whether a curse, or just icky stuff one or both of you have been exposed to. The problem could even be an ancestral "relic" of some sort (a curse put on someone in your family line in an earlier generation). I don't know. That's for the reader to determine. Whatever you do to mitigate the situation should be tailored accordingly, and the best way to do that is to start with a good reading.
Now, this gets into dangerous territory. I just want to warn you. There are people out there who will go, "Oh, my, what a horrible curse you have. I think it's gonna cost you about $8,000 spread over several payments for me to lift this curse from you. So, gimme' $1,000 now and I'll get started." Run, don't walk, out the door! I wish I were kidding or exaggerating about those numbers, but I'm not. There's good money to be made on peoples' fear, unfortunately.
Use your discretion, common sense, and intuition about psychic readers. Though it is a service and being charged for the work is fair to the worker, still, it shouldn't cost you an exorbitant amount of money for help, either.
Part I:
Getting Rid of the Bad
Investigating/Cleansing the Property
OK, generally, the order of operations would be to "deep clean" yourself and your surroundings, metaphysically-speaking, to get rid of the old, bad energy. Then, the next step would be to create an energetic "mold" to attract and bring in the good. The final step would be to protect and seal that good.
As far as your surroundings go, a good reader will look for any areas of your home that need "healing," like for instance, something funky on the land that you're not aware of. Or, some kind of portal present in one of the rooms letting in icky things, unwanted "visitors" present and meddling into your life, or something else. I don't know. Again, a reader will have to investigate this for you. If the person is really good, they could "see" the energy of the place non-locally, and an on-premises visit won't be necessary. But, it doesn't hurt to work with someone in-person, either. Again, you make the call on that.
Cleansing Yourselves
Cleansing will also probably have to happen on a personal level for you guys, as well. In AAFM, there is such as thing as a 13-Herb Bath. This is where someone takes a bath with some very powerful herbs believed to thoroughly clean the auric field of all spiritual detritus ("auric field" is not terminology an AAFM practitioner would use, haha, but you know what I mean). During this ritual, for 13 consecutive days you'd pour the bath water over your head 13 times, reciting Psalm 23 each time, symbolic of asking God to clean this badness out of your head, your spirit, your entire life. When you get out, you might pass between two white candles or something, to further cleanse yourself, this time via fire.
As an aside, in olden days, Celtic folks had a similar tradition with fire, where during Samhainm I believe it was, the village would pass between two large bonfires, cleansing away the spiritual detritus and residue of the old year, to open the way for good in the new. Each person would take some of the bonfire home with them, and start a fire with it in their own fireplace to keep that good going. I would love it if we had big bonfires going every year to do this! (I guess that's what Burning Man is for, lol). Maybe someone more familiar with the Celtic ritual could elaborate on the tradition that I'm speaking of here. Yeah, water and fire have been ubiquitous "cleansers," throughout humanity.
OK, anyway, during or after this cleansing period, you might then have what's called "Uncrossing" spell work done. The purpose is self-explanatory: to remove crossed conditions.
Part II:
Bringing in the Good
Creating Good Luck Again
In rootwork, workings such as "Road Openings" or using products called like, "Crown of Success," and other such things help attract good energy. Depending on the wording, this work could cover anything from one's physical health, to employment success, to tranquility in the home (there's a line of products called, "Tranquil Home" products that are good for this, and really should be used on a regular basis), to all of the above. This is to restore balance again, to create harmony and peace, and to promote success.
Relationship Work
All the misfortunes you guys are experiencing, plus dealing with all the exes on both sides, could understandably take a toll on your relationship. Some "bringing together" work akin to "love spell" work might be good to do for your relationship. Personally, I think love spells are best done for people already in a committed relationship, like a marriage, or other committed partnership. This working might be designed to do several things:
1. Tighten the bond between you. This might involve some candle work, such as using two figurative candles that represent you guys, anointing them with select love-related oils and herbs (and personal effects), and tying a red cord around them, etc. This might be part of an altar that you keep regularly in your home going forward, preferably in your bedroom. Like a fireplace, you could renew it from time to time, "stoking" the flames of love between you.
2. Remove obstacles and meddlers. Somewhere within this working a banishing component may be a good idea, to "remove" the energetic presence of anybody around you guys who might be meddling in you business, like an ex who might be perpetuating any kind of curse work they had done on you, or who is just resentful in general with no curse, sending bad vibes.
3. Protect the space of the relationship. Finally, this working might end with some kind of protective work, ingredients/wording that is symbolic of protection over your relationship to help prevent future misunderstandings and irritations, both from the inside and the outside, and protect whatever good is generated within that space, so that it does not seep out (get utilized somehow by the wrong person(s)).
Part III:
Protection & Maintenance
Protective Work
Finally, once the home has been cleansed, and new, positive energy has been brought in, everything should be sealed with some protective work. It's like painting a clear coat of protective enamel once you've re-stained a lovely old piece of furniture, lol. So, your home, cars, family members ...and especially your finances, all need protective work done on them. People don't think of protecting their finances with magic, but why not? Curse work often involves zapping peoples' finances, as well. After all, it's
all just energy. A "Firey Wall of Protection" AAFM working is a strong protective measure often suggested in cases of extreme crossed conditions.
Regular Cleansing
Then, as regular spiritual maintenance, you guys might do what firebirdflys recommends above on a regular basis --sage out your home once a month, pray over everything, banish the bad, and invite the good. Also, if you don't have one, it could be a unifying factor for your family to follow a spiritual path of some sort (I don't know, like go to church regularly or something, or pursue pagan path of some sort together; the religion isn't as important as just doing something as a family in a
united front). That is the one good thing about religion I think, though there are many bad things I could think of, such as the abuses. But, it's true --family that prays together, stays together...well, I think their chances might be a bit better, at least.
These are just some examples of the kind of workings your spiritual consultant may recommend. You will have to get a detailed reading so that whatever work they will do for you and/or that you need to do for yourself, could be properly prescribed. You could work with one person who does the reading, then another person to help with the ritual/spell work. Most people like to work with the same person to do both, otherwise the spellworker's take on things might be different from the reader's. Everybody who does readings does not necessarily do spellwork too, so kindly ask all parties (or, carefully read their websites before contacting them, etc.) so you know who does what.
Good luck.
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