Needing to talk...its LONG sorry!!
Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2013 5:42 pm
Ok I need to talk, I think my friends are tired of hearing me....I need honest opinions! This is kinda personal, but like I said I feel comfortable here. Here's whats going on.
About a week ago, my ex and I split up. We had been dating for 6 months, we were together all the time always having fun and laughing. Thing is he's a full blown alcoholic, and has been for 15 years. He was single for 4 years before he met me...when we first started dating I had a job and he didn't. He didn't want to do anything other then drink and party and at that time I was drinking heavy myself because I had just gotten out of a relationship before him. After about a month or two he asked me to move in with him, I did. We were both starting to catch serious feelings for each other, one night we both ended up saying "I love you". Like I said we always got along, NO matter what we always enjoyed each others company. We had some pretty good times together.
BUT...I think it was a week or so before Thanksgiving he come home at 1 in the morning very drunk. That wasn't like him to come home at that time and not let me know anything. When he come home he was MEAN! Yelled at me and said some pretty bad things, things that broke my heart. He even told me to get out!! The next morning before he left for work(he got a job by this time) he apologized to me I asked if he remembered what he said and he didn't. Long story short, this happened two more times do to alcohol. Finally the last time, I moved out.
We still talk, and we still miss each other...I love him and he loves me. He said he was tired of the fighting...Here's the only thing I can come up with. He was single for 4 years before he met me, used to drinking and doing whatever he wanted. My drinking slowed down A LOT, there were times that I went out with him but wanted to come home and he didn't. I think he thought that I was trying to change him, when I wasn't...I just didn't want him to be so mean, sober he has the BIGGEST heart ever and he's a real gentle man, but add alcohol and he's a mess.
He let me stay with him for two nights...on the second night we did our thing *cough*...then the next morning I left. My heart hurts so bad and I miss him horribly. He's even said he loves me and misses me, but when I ask him if I could come see him he tells me no. WHY?! There's still a lot of my stuff in his house, and I still have his key, which he hasn't asked for back. He hasn't told me to get any of my stuff either. What's going on?! Do I not contact him for a while, do I let him come to me?! I don't know what to do and I've been so depressed. Can someone please give me some advice?!
About a week ago, my ex and I split up. We had been dating for 6 months, we were together all the time always having fun and laughing. Thing is he's a full blown alcoholic, and has been for 15 years. He was single for 4 years before he met me...when we first started dating I had a job and he didn't. He didn't want to do anything other then drink and party and at that time I was drinking heavy myself because I had just gotten out of a relationship before him. After about a month or two he asked me to move in with him, I did. We were both starting to catch serious feelings for each other, one night we both ended up saying "I love you". Like I said we always got along, NO matter what we always enjoyed each others company. We had some pretty good times together.
BUT...I think it was a week or so before Thanksgiving he come home at 1 in the morning very drunk. That wasn't like him to come home at that time and not let me know anything. When he come home he was MEAN! Yelled at me and said some pretty bad things, things that broke my heart. He even told me to get out!! The next morning before he left for work(he got a job by this time) he apologized to me I asked if he remembered what he said and he didn't. Long story short, this happened two more times do to alcohol. Finally the last time, I moved out.
We still talk, and we still miss each other...I love him and he loves me. He said he was tired of the fighting...Here's the only thing I can come up with. He was single for 4 years before he met me, used to drinking and doing whatever he wanted. My drinking slowed down A LOT, there were times that I went out with him but wanted to come home and he didn't. I think he thought that I was trying to change him, when I wasn't...I just didn't want him to be so mean, sober he has the BIGGEST heart ever and he's a real gentle man, but add alcohol and he's a mess.
He let me stay with him for two nights...on the second night we did our thing *cough*...then the next morning I left. My heart hurts so bad and I miss him horribly. He's even said he loves me and misses me, but when I ask him if I could come see him he tells me no. WHY?! There's still a lot of my stuff in his house, and I still have his key, which he hasn't asked for back. He hasn't told me to get any of my stuff either. What's going on?! Do I not contact him for a while, do I let him come to me?! I don't know what to do and I've been so depressed. Can someone please give me some advice?!