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So there is this person in my life I am physically attracted to but I’m not sure it’s anything more than sexual and I really don’t want to date because I am happy single and I look at getting the nerve to ask her out let alone going on a date as just time consuming. Yet, the attraction is tormenting me. Advice?
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Ooo, maybe just lay it on the line, ask her out but let her know you intend on remaining single. (maybe not so sledgehammer as that though LoL)Do you want to be her friend or just a booty call? if you can get the parameters defined early on then there should be no expectations.
You may have to commit to a dinner, or a drink though, just don't call it a date!
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I respect her enough to want her as a friend and I would want the same from her. If she turns me down I’ll be relieved to know it wasn’t possible anyway.
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I would give it a bit of time then. Get to be friends, then maybe friends with benefits.
Lots of people do that, don't cancel yourself out before you've given it a shot. Ya know?
Got to say this though, sometimes going that one step beyond with a friend can ruin a relationship as friends. Just keep the lines of communication open.
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I like the advice and I will follow it, ignoring all the previous advice I have heard about avoiding the friend zone. I expect to have several encounters with her today so I will just have some friendly conversations.
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Firebird wrote: Wed May 11, 2022 10:20 pm I would give it a bit of time then. Get to be friends, then maybe friends with benefits.
Lots of people do that, don't cancel yourself out before you've given it a shot. Ya know?
Got to say this though, sometimes going that one step beyond with a friend can ruin a relationship as friends. Just keep the lines of communication open.
BB, F.
For what it’s worth, I just found out she is taken, which comes as a huge relief.
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Oh, I'm sorry RJ. Perhaps you can still be friends?
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Of course
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In the future, try to put yourself out there and make your intentions known, while being honest about what you want to do with someone you're attracted to. No one likes being deceived by false pretenses.
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