Hand fasting advice?

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My girlfriend and I are getting married on January 20th, 2018 and I have no idea where to start planning a non Christian wedding/hand fasting ceremony. She is agnostic but has no problem with my suggestion of a hand fasting. Any help would be greatly appreciated
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Do you have any Wiccan friends or know where they would frequent? I read about hand-fasting in Buckland's blue book and if I remember correctly you need a priest and/or a priestess. But I'm sure you can customize the traditional ceremony to something that works for you. My husband and I were actually going to do a small one with just us for our anniversary since we got married in the court house :P I was just going to research online and modify as needed. Congrats to you and your lady!




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http://www.handfastings.org/abouthandfastings.htm

Here is a little Q & A on handfasting I found.

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My husband and I were handfasted by a non-denominational minister.

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Congratulations. :)

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You have a little ways to go before the big day, so don't stress just yet.
If you want a friend to preform the handfasting for you, they can become ordained online... I did this for a friend once. I just read a lot on handfasting and watched a whole bunch of youtube videos and the couple and I came up with our own handfasting format.
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Congratulations! I was thinking of doing a hand fasting or something for our anniversary, but don't have much advice on it yet.

Just look at what you and your fiancee want in your ceremony, and you should be fine!

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SnowCat wrote:My husband and I were handfasted by a non-denominational minister.

Snow
Wowee thank you so much, that's part of exactly what I was looking for.
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smogie_michele wrote:You have a little ways to go before the big day, so don't stress just yet.
If you want a friend to preform the handfasting for you, they can become ordained online... I did this for a friend once. I just read a lot on handfasting and watched a whole bunch of youtube videos and the couple and I came up with our own handfasting format.
I was thinking of having my great grandmother do it, as that would make it more personal.
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My cousin had a very Christian wedding and it actually included a hand fasting! When I was researching our wedding, I saw that a hand fasting was recognized as a declaration of intent by the state of Arkansas. So I bet there are more ministers than you think that know how to do it already. Congratulations!

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I was looking up ceremony ideas for my own wedding and came across this... Thought of you. Hope it is useful!
https://wizzley.com/what-to-expect-at-a ... -ceremony/
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