My son is only three, so he has not actively asked to have his part in any of our rituals. I do remember asking to have a "job" when I was around six years old. This is the age I really became a shadow and was very interested in watching every little detail. My parents did not really set many limitations for me. I was encouraged to try something, if I did it correctly I could continue to do it. If not, then they would focus on what I was able to do and slowly teach me what I was not able to do.JBRaven wrote:When is a good age to let your shild start diung ritual? You don't want to be the one who is shoving religion down her thoart.
I agree that when they start asking is a good time. I have a different point of view on religion being shoved down your throat though. I was raised in a very non-religious family and envied people who had some form of guidance growing up, the community and sense of spirituality that can come from it. That being said I do not plan on forcing my children to participate in any religious ceremony. If they ask then they can join in. If they wish to attend a church or any other place of worship I will take them. I want them to feel able to question and seek for themselves. If issues arise at school then I will deal with it, I'm not very concerned as our family is very "out of the closet" with our beliefs.JBRaven wrote:When is a good age to let your should start doing ritual? You don't want to be the one who is shoving religion down her throat.
It truly is a major decision but it is one that you can grow and change your mind about too, unlike paying for your schooling and then deciding to change your mind part way through, or having children, getting legally married etc.JBRaven wrote:I just see it that my daughter would be doing it to please me or because I ask her to. I just don't see that children can give any true form of consent. To me religion is the second biggest choice in someones life. I don't think anyone should make that choice for you..
From my personal experience, I never felt my families path was forced on me. I am sure that they would have griped had I decided to go Catholic, but they would have never left me abandoned spiritually. I actually made my own informed decision at eight years old to do a promise ceremony. I promised myself to my path and promised to complete my initiation in the future. I fully understood what I was doing at eight, in near the same manner as I do now. I have always been mentally older than my actual age though, so that might have something to do with my choices.JBRaven wrote:I just see it that my daughter would be doing it to please me or because I ask her to. I just don't see that children can give any true form of consent. To me religion is the second biggest choice in someones life. I don't think anyone should make that choice for you..