Well, I'm kind of torn between the sides here. Not being Wiccan and not completely following the Wiccan rede:
Bide ye Wiccan laws ye must,
in perfect love and perfect trust.
Live and let live, fairly take and fairly give.
Form the circle thrice about, to keep all evil spirits out.
To bind ye spell every time, let ye spell be spake in rhyme.
Soft of eye, light of touch, speak ye little, listen much.
Deosil go by the waxing moon, singing out ye Witchesâ€™ Rune.
Widdershins go by the waning moon, chanting out ye Baneful Rune.
When the Ladyâ€™s moon is new, kiss your hand to her times two.
When the moon rides at her peak, then ye heartâ€™s desire seek.
Heed the North windâ€™s mighty gale, lock the door and trim the sail.
When the wind comes from the South, love will kiss thee on the mouth.
When the wind blows from the West, departed souls may have no rest.
When the wind blows from the East, except the new and set the feast.
Nine woods in ye cauldron go, burn them fast and burn them slow.
Elder be ye Ladyâ€™s tree, burn it not or cursed yeâ€™ll be.
When the wheel begins to turn, soon ye Beltaine fireâ€™ll burn.
When the wheel hath turned to Yule, light the log the Horned One rules.
Heed ye flower, bush and tree, by the Lady blessed be.
Where the rippling waters flow, cast a stone and truth yeâ€™ll know.
When ye have and hold a need, harken not to others greed.
With a fool no season spend, nor be counted as his friend.
Merry meet and merry part, bright the cheeks and warm the heart.
Mind ye threefold law ye should, three times bad and three times good.
When misfortune is anow, wear the blue star upon thy brow.
True in love ye must ever be, lest thy love be false to thee.
In these eight words the Wiccan Rede fulfill,
â€˜An ye harm none, do what ye will.
I don't really see ultimate doom in casting a love spell on a person, as long as you don't imbue it with blood magic (Some people don't understand just how powerful it can be. Don't use it unless you want a spell permanent.) or hope to be with him the rest of your life. That said, I'll move onto the candle part. Most of it is personal preferance..
If you really think lust should be symbolized with a pink candle, then use a pink candle. But otherwise, I agree with the other members and would say use it in friendship-oriented spell or any other type of spell it empowers and symbolizes. Also, question for whoever suggested the black candle: Why? It seems to me like she has a crush on somebody and wants them to think about her-- a lot. While personal preferance comes into play again, I don't think a black candle should be used, unless you want to bring him harm.
Also, another suggestion: make your own spell and word it the way -you- want it. The spell will be from your own mind and heart, and therefore, it will work better for you. If you already left.. sorry. :s Wish you would have stayed and enjoyed the many things this community offers!
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