Need a spell to help me get over someone.

[Heartsong]

Hi KimKim,

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult situation. Losing a loved one, no matter the circumstances, is always painful, and you never forget them. Part of our growth as individuals is having to face these kinds of situations, and learn from them. I know it isn't easy, but please know that you will heal and become stronger in the process. To encourage that healing, I always recommend lots of time spent with close loved ones that are sympathetic, but also determined to draw you out of your pain. Let them. As good as it may feel to wallow for a while in self-pity and hurt, it won't help you move on. But the people in your life that love you will. Also keep in mind those things that have always brought you pleasure, comfort, and enjoyment, and allow yourself the indulgence of letting those things remind you that you are your own person, and have loves that exist beyond your previous relationship.

This is a spell that may help with moving on as well. I've used it, and have recommended it before for those who feel a need for just a little push with getting past things that are easy for them. I had it posted in my online BoS, but I'll share it below for you. You're more than welcome to bend our ears if you need a place to vent.

Love and Blessings,
~Heartsong

The "One Big Issue" Spell ~

This is a spell that is designed to help you overcome that one big issue that is just weighing you down and keeping you from moving on in your life.


Requirements:

~a white balloon with a string attached to it (helium works best, but one blown up by mouth will do.)
~a felt-tip pen
~four sticks of incense (preferably all in the same scent and in one that brings comfort and peace to you.)


The Spell:

Take the balloon and incense to a nice open space outdoors, like your yard or a nearby park. Close your eyes and let yourself feel the magical energies that flow around you. Let them flow into you, raising and enhancing your power. Light the sticks of incense as you cast the spell. Begin by turning to the North and saying:

Guardians of the North,
Powers of Earth, powers of clarity,
Make this spell a reality

Push one stick of incense into the ground and light it. Then turn to the East and say:

Guardians of the East,
Powers of Air, powers of thought,
Make this spell work as sought.

Push another stick into the ground and light it. Then turn to the South and say:

Guardians of the South,
Powers of Fire, powers of energy,
Makes this spell work immediately.

Push the third stick into the ground and light it. Then turn to the West and say:

Guardians of the West,
Powers of Water, powers of emotion,
Put this spell into motion.

Push the last stick into the ground, light it, and grasp the balloon by the string.

Stand in the center of the space that you have defined with the sticks, holding the balloon. Concentrate on releasing your issue with the balloon. If you start to cry, let it all out. If you feel anger, hurt, let them all out, into the balloon.

Then, hold it up, and let go of the string. Watch the balloon take flight, and visualize the burden that you have been carrying soaring away from you. You should feel uplifted and relieved as the balloon moves away from you. Don't worry if it pops, that's OK.

Remain in the center until the incense burns down, and then clean up.


Afterward:

Whenever something reminds you of your one big issue, recall the sight of that balloon sailing away from you. Remember that this thing no longer has anything to do with you, and rejoice in the freedom from it.

[YanaKhan]

Hello there, KimKim,
I agree with Heartsong about surrounding yourself with people that love you. I would add to that advice - find a new hobby and keep yourself busy all the time. It may sound stupid, but it actually helps. I've been in your shoes, it sucks and I understand how you feel. It may seem that time doesn't really heal and you miss him more every day, but the truth is you have made this idealized idea of him in your mind and miss that. Not really him.
I would sit down and write every little thing about him that annoyed me or hurt me or made me feel bad. And then read the list every day. I don't know if that will help any, that's just me. But it did help me once.
The spell Heartsong gave you is fantastic.
I wish you the best of luck.

[Obsidian]

In addition to the great spell and suggestion from Heartsong and YanaKhan, here are a couple of spell I posted in a similar thread. http://everythingunderthemoon.net/forum ... ne#p189439

The first spell is to help you heal (not exactly what you asked for, I know... but the second one is a spell to get over someone.)

Best wishes to you. I don't know if this is of any help to you, but we all go through these things. Try to remember all the good things in your life; you've still got your family, your friends, your health, a roof over your head, a job, you don't live in a war zone... As YanaKhan said keep yourself busy with something that makes you feel good. It'd be a shame to waste your time thinking about the past and miss out on fun and opportunities in the present.