I lost a friend

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I lost a friend

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I was too honest with her..
kinda sad.. She wanted the truth she asked basically me telling her woes
I told her what I seen and felt she knows I'm psychic.
have been always honest with her.
Being empath with many abilties takes it's toll
Sometimes the truth really hurts.
Kinda upset.. but, I have move on I guess.?
I liked her. sigh.
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Re: I lost a friend

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Give it some time and space. Maybe she'll come back around.
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And I am the also the Moon
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And I am the outcast as well, and the thief
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It's a pity that she is unable to understand that you like her despite what you saw.
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It is ..I tired helping with her problems..
Gave her my view on things..
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She did email me she needs time alone.
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That's a gentle way of saying "back off" isn't it. It's possible that your eagerness to "help" feels intrusive. People will naturally resist & resent invasion of personal space. Being an empath makes it hard for you to recognize another's personal space & your well-meaning, good intentions can feel abrasive to the recipient. You'll help more if you respect other's personal space & say less than you're thinking. Exercising your self-control then gives the other person a chance to think rather than reacting defensively. It's a technique you can learn. The best way to help someone is to let them help themselves. They gain self-respect. It's a slow curve.
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She is a empath like me takes in too much..
She came to me with problems with being with a empath..
I was helping and she said I was .. sometimes honesty is a thing people can't handle.
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If someone cannot handle your version of truth then saying it isn't helping them; it's blunt force bulldozing & it's no wonder you lost a friend. Why are you even dismayed by it? It's no surprise. Even when someone says "tell me your honest opinion" you can sense their level of readiness. It's a real balancing act to guide people to see the truth for themselves. Our mind's will resist what our hearts aren't preparred to see & human nature shoots the messenger. I've been blunt with you & you've responded (similar to how your friend's respond to you) by defending your method & saying they'd asked for it. Can't you understand them now? Still, it hurts when you'd meant well. My sympathies.
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Re: I lost a friend

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I said what said no taking back what I said..
She will come back when she is ready.. was it wrong ?
what I said.. no.. she wanted to know..
So it is what it is..
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Well of course. I'm not disputing that obvious conclusion :) . Such an obvious & repeated chain reaction shouldn't cause such dismay that you post about telling it like it is and losing a friend. You can anticipate it's going to happen every time.

Maybe I'm misunderstanding your posts in thinking you were seeking some kind of assistance & if so please accept my appologies for misinterpreting your posts.

If handling the hurt continues to be an issue you might find this useful as a means of self-defense.
http://everythingunderthemoon.net/forum ... mogrifying
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People return to where they find self... a beautiful thing for either party. OR someone else...
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Re: I lost a friend

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This is mostly why I have turned to being online, sadly my friends don't believe it, i have lost a lot. But I do believe you are supposed to levitate to certain people for one reason or another. If there is true love in a friendship it will blossom, have faith don't give up and ride that wave!
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Sometimes when people are not as spiritually developed they need guiding without realizing it...........you become almost like a stepping stone.........maybe you have done your job in some way ?
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Yes absolutely. That is all i do with the people i see from day to day. Stepping stones to a better reality. It's coming i feel...
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Re: I lost a friend

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yeah but like everything it has its down side,sometimes it can feel brutal almost hurtful in the moment. But that goes then the realization will follow. I often long to have certain people in my life, but i have to realize I'm not needed anymore.

i hope my explanation has come across in the right way :)
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