I had terribly painful and irregular moon cycles (until I had a child) (they got a little more regular but no less painful). I found the more I honored myself and the blood the less pain I had. I had been on birth control pills which actually helped quite a bit for the 5 or so years I was on them (is that why I sport this little goatee?
) but they were really contraindicated for a particular health issue of mine. Then I was completely on the rhythm method and any interactions with husband didn't seem to affect it much at all. I did keep a calendar and found my cycle going from dark moon to dark moon, leaving the fertile zone around the full moon.
Some teas were helpful but I would have to take Pamprin and sleep for 2 days. (Don't know if they still make that drug, it worked way better than Midol) Hot compresses or heating pads were my best friend. I've heard certain foods will agrivate the problem, but I'm not altogether sure which foods that may be.
I've passed the problem onto my child, she ended in the ER last year with a ruptured ovarian cyst.
I used to joke that there was only one painfree week in a month, or only one sane week in a month!
We have a pretty great thread on the matter, Kassandra wrote it I think...lemme see if I can find it.