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[ViVi]

Forgive me for being pants on head retarded here, but I have nowhere else to go to ask about this. I hope it's in the right section, I have no idea what to class it as.

For simplicity's sake, let's say we've got Person A and Person B. They've never met in person, and infrequently chat via facebook and similar. One day Person A starts to notice that B is showing similar moods to A. On closer inspection, A discovers that whenever she has a depressive episode or similar (she's on medication for it, etc.), B also has a bad day and feels upset over nothing in particular. These little coincidences keep popping up everywhere. They have the same dream one night, with tiny differences like an outfit or a viewpoint. Then a few nights ago, A had a very bad night, had trouble sleeping, felt sick, anxious and generally awful. The next day she comes online and B, without prompt or any prior knowledge, begins to describe a 'nervous flutter' that stopped them sleeping. B states, 'it felt like someone else's worry was affecting me, I couldn't get to sleep'.

Does this sound like anything? for what it's worth, I'm A, so I can provide extra details. It's all a bit messed up in my head right now, I'm pretty freaked out. And that doesn't happen too easily. :c I hope someone can shed some light on this.
Edit: I should point out that B has no form of contact with me other than PSN and facebook and cannot know when I've had an attack unless I say so. We have no mutual friends (and I don't tend to tell anyone anyway most of the time.)

[CristryShannon]

That happend to me 1 year ago with my boyfriend when i first met him...he always telling me that he had a bad day a bad dream and the same were happening to me just like your story and also the most creapy thing that he told me is that except those he had a feeling that someone was there everytime! Well that time i had a thought that maybe was my guardian who checked on him to find out if he is good for me, but then i found out that the only one who was with me was me...well not me personal like a thought! He has the same powers like me so someway we were connected!so i don't know if it helps but maybe that's what is happening between u and him! I hope i helped a little bit!
Blessed be!

[Elisa]

Hi ViVi. It sounds like you're having a normal empathic reaction to B, and vice versa. Learn to clear and shield your energy on a regular basis. Over time, you'll learn to "hear" which are your thoughts and emotions, and which aren't, and not react to them so easily. As long as you're human, you're going to be affected by peoples' emotions, and people will be affected by your emotions. We "feel" each other; it's how humans are hardwired. Those who are totally incapable of feeling others are usually labeled sociopathic, and eventually commit some kind of crime that lands them in prison. They sincerely won't "feel" they've done anything wrong, because they really don't feel. So feelings, in a sense, help us maintain some semblance of social order and safety.

A lot of times we mistake common energy reactions like this for some kind of "mystic connection" between us and other people. You've probably experienced this many times before with other people and just never noticed it consciously, until now. You can read about resources and further information on this topic in this forum by clicking on the "Empath Resources" thread.

An added note here, it sounds like you don't know this person real well. I'm assuming B is an OK person, and not some weirdo. But I do have to say, though, please be on guard when dealing with all online people. A person can say he or she is anybody, living anywhere. They can concoct a whole a identity that's totally false. There are predators who are very, very good at charading and acting like they really "get" you, "like nobody else does," in order to win over your trust. They'll have you believing you have some kind of mystical connection with them. Next thing you know, they want to meet you somewhere, and so on. Be careful. Don't divulge too much about yourself. Don't tell strangers your private business, vulnerabilities and other personal information; save that for the circle of real people in your life who really know you and care about you.


In this video, psychiatrist Dr. Judith Orloff discusses signs of people variously called "empaths," or
"Highly Sensitive People (HSPs)." You might find that some of these symptoms sound very familiar.

[ViVi]

Hello Elisa. ^^ Just wanted you to know I haven't been kidnapped by a stranger; I understand what you meant about being very careful online and I am. Too careful, most of the time - I know the signs of a weirdo, I escaped one or two when I was younger and more easily swayed.
What I didn't make clear enough is, I don't WANT this to happen. I don't wish to have any connection to this person at all, it doesn't seem right to me that I would; and it makes that person think it's okay to be a little too friendly with me. Of course the simplest option (and the one I'm using now) is to just ignore them. But it worries me that it might still happen and I can't seem to prevent it. Any ideas at all?? Thank you, you've been very helpful.