any sort of love spell for whatever reason seems to be generally frowned upon
I think that this is far from the point, to be quite honest.. 'Love' spells are frowned upon because the stereotypical view of people asking for them is that they've flown in here on a whirlwind of 'fluffyness', eager to grab that love spell and do some 'OMG KEWL STUFF LIEK IN BUFFY!'... *cough*
They are also 'frowned upon' by some people, because it is against their personal beliefs to mess with 'free will'.. However, there are also people here who do not share in these beliefs, and as such will happily hand out a love spell.
However, one thing that is most
definitely 'frowned upon', or at least viewed with a sceptical eye.. Is when someone is more willing to try and grab a spell to change things, than to accept the fact that
spells and 'magick' cannot solve all of life's problems.
Unfortunate as it may be, it is a fact of life that 'bad' things will happen to us all at some point or another. Things we do not enjoy, or things that affect those we love. This is inevitable. I'm not saying that this makes them
right.. I'm just saying that they are as much a part of life as all the good things that happen to us.
Sure, there's nothing wrong with trying to change a situation to make it better, especially if there is the potential for abuse (as in this case). However, as I've said, it should be recognised that spells are
not the answer to problems like this. They may very well help facilitate the process of changing this bad situation into something good.. But they cannot be relied upon to make everything rosey again.
I am almost positive that in this case, if the father is abusive, he will not be given custody of the children. Why should he? I can't claim to know anything about divorce laws, but it would make very little sense for the courts to rule in his favour if he is a negligent parent.. I'm sure someone else here will be more enlightened on the subject than I am, though.
Either way, your doing a spell will
not stop your friend's parents from divorcing each other. This is a choice they have made, and no matter how many spells or how much energy you throw at it.. You aren't going to revive a relationship that is dead. If they are divorcing, there must be good reason for it.. Else I'm sure they wouldn't. Again, it is a fact of life that sometimes relationships just don't work.. It is extremely unfortunate that, in some of these cases, children get caught in the cross-fire of their parents divorce.. And I only have the deepest sympathy for them, during what must be a horribly difficult time.
The best thing you can do is to support your friend - even if you are separated by distance. Keep in touch with her as much as you can, and lend her your ear and your shoulder. Use a spell to give her strength, send her energy, and protect her. This would be a better use of your energy by far, than trying to stop her parents.. Which just isn't going to happen, as it sounds that they have already reached their decision.
Good luck.
Elem
Edit: Apologies if this post sounded harsh, only realised afterwards that I'd taken quite a stern tone! I do have the deepest of sympathy for your friend's situation, I just don't want to see you directing your energies into something that won't help.. When you could do so much for your friend in other ways.