So this is happening
Posted: Tue Jan 08, 2019 1:46 am
[DISCLAIMER: This is some really heavy stuff. I'm on the verge of a six year break up, life's about to get ugly.]
I'm really freaked out.
It's really heavy what I'm dealing with right now. I'm trying to get out of a co dependent, emotionally abusive relationship. I've been very discreet, very careful. Today I made a move and got myself an advocate from a women's shelter. For a few days I have to just kinda pretend I'm fine and not instigate fights or anything.
All last night at work I was upset, this was on my mind, I was creating a plan of action. I can't stand being a liar the way I am. It's weighing on me heavily.
Today my fiance told me that he had a bad nightmare last night.
He dreamed that we were in the car on the way to his mom's house. We started fighting over everything about how much he's been slacking off and how every issue we've had just erupted. In the dream I told him that I slept all the way across the bed because I just didn't want to be near him and that I kept my third shift job because I wanted to see him as little as possible. In the dream i told him I've been pretending I'm okay because I didn't want to leave his daughter (who I have involved in her life since she was like 2...she's 7 now.)
I froze and I just kinda told him 'I never meant to make you feel that way.'
When I say 'co-dependent' I really mean we are co-dependent. He has managed to put me in a position of life where I'm just financially and emotionally screwed up enough that I'm scared to be without him. He's manipulative and he's managed to change who I am at my core to a point where I pretty much don't recognize myself. Is it possible I'm spiritually attached to him now. Is there a way to sort of sever what's ensnaring me? Does that even make sense? I can't have his dreams telling him what I'm about to do...it's been hard enough to take the steps I have taken.
I'm really freaked out.
It's really heavy what I'm dealing with right now. I'm trying to get out of a co dependent, emotionally abusive relationship. I've been very discreet, very careful. Today I made a move and got myself an advocate from a women's shelter. For a few days I have to just kinda pretend I'm fine and not instigate fights or anything.
All last night at work I was upset, this was on my mind, I was creating a plan of action. I can't stand being a liar the way I am. It's weighing on me heavily.
Today my fiance told me that he had a bad nightmare last night.
He dreamed that we were in the car on the way to his mom's house. We started fighting over everything about how much he's been slacking off and how every issue we've had just erupted. In the dream I told him that I slept all the way across the bed because I just didn't want to be near him and that I kept my third shift job because I wanted to see him as little as possible. In the dream i told him I've been pretending I'm okay because I didn't want to leave his daughter (who I have involved in her life since she was like 2...she's 7 now.)
I froze and I just kinda told him 'I never meant to make you feel that way.'
When I say 'co-dependent' I really mean we are co-dependent. He has managed to put me in a position of life where I'm just financially and emotionally screwed up enough that I'm scared to be without him. He's manipulative and he's managed to change who I am at my core to a point where I pretty much don't recognize myself. Is it possible I'm spiritually attached to him now. Is there a way to sort of sever what's ensnaring me? Does that even make sense? I can't have his dreams telling him what I'm about to do...it's been hard enough to take the steps I have taken.