WHY "MAP" YOUR MENSTRUAL CYCLE?
Posted: Mon Apr 22, 2013 5:13 pm
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=4FE-vJ8mPqU#!
When I received a link to this video in my email, after reading the title only, I thought it was going to be
something similar to all the "penis enlargement" and "hey there, remember me from Facebook?" spammy
e-garbage I get. I was just about to delete it, but decided to listen to the video a bit. Soon, I was of
the opinion that it has some good advice in it, so I am sharing it here. In her bubbly, Brazilian way, she
shares her own brand of Goddess wisdom.
FOLLOW THAT MAP!
While I'm not advocating sex during menstruation as Kika does, I do think there are some really good suggestions in this video about understanding the menstrual cycle, and what to do during that time. While she keeps bringing the motivation for greater understanding of being just to "have better sex" (probably sells more of her products or services, since "sex sells"), I would hope people watching this have the goal to learn this for the purpose of establishing better quality of life, for everyone involved. I find that people in Western cultures tend to have a perspective of Tantra out of context with its true meaning. It is part of a larger spiritual path and understanding of the universe. So, when I hear people emphasizing "sex tips," I find it kind of cheesy and tend to ignore it.
Anyway, PMS can really ruin the quality of life for a woman, so developing awareness and learning to manage it is important. Recently, a young woman gave me feedback that she now sees the logic in what I had told her a while back about "charting" her cycle, that is, marking it in some kind of calendar. Now, when it's a week prior to the start of it, she knows her thoughts and feelings are going to be exaggerated somewhat, with unexpected ups and downs. She says this has helped tremendously. She said before, when she didn't pay attention to it, it was like a roller coaster. Now she honors those thoughts and feelings, what Kika here calls "hormonal thoughts," without letting them overrun her life, as she tended to before being aware of the difference. Awareness is the key.
PMS affects guys, too. A guy I know has a fiance who is the sweetest girl, but likes to drink frequently, which tends to greatly exacerbate her PMS. She does this huge Jekyll/Hyde mood swing on him once a month. After we talked about it, he began to notice the pattern, like clockwork. He knew what to expect, and tells me now that this awareness brought a lot of peace to their relationship. So guys, pay special attention to the suggestions Kika makes about how to communicate with your women during various times on the menstrual cycle "map." Consider this "insider information"! Note especially the suggestions she makes for Days 22 through 28. It wouldn't hurt to keep a chart in your wallet, or reminders on your phone.
MORE PSYCHIC "AROUND THAT TIME"
Part of the reason you are "more sensitive" right before your period is because you are seeing things for what they really are, and you are calling it like you see it. Because of your heightened psychic sensitivities, you are less-inclined to put on that phoney smilie face and just play along. You are much more likely to become an "oracle," a seer, and tell people what exactly is going to happen if they take a certain course of action. And you see right through people trying to lie to you, and you don't hesitate to call them on it right away. Like Kika says, this is the time when people are going to call you a bitch and whatnot. You are expressing yourself more directly than usual. I think we cry more at that time because we are on "stimuli overload," so it's important to spend time meditating daily (at least 10 mins, more if possible), so we can shake off all that extra "psychic information." Also, we can use that time to make changes in life we don't have the chutzpah to change during the other times in our cycles. Let your greater psychic insight at moontime work for you, not against you.
It was many years into my adulthood before I realized I was more psychic during that week (Days 22 through 28) than any other part of the cycle. I wish I had known that. I would get dreams, premonitions, be highly empathic and hear and feel nearly everything people around me were thinking and feeling, which as you could imagine was overwhelming, to put it mildly. OK, why put it mildly? ...it was a nightmare! I wish I had had someone around me that would have explained to me what I was experiencing. I just knew I had an urge to draw and write about what I was sensing, but I didn't know why sometimes it was more intense than others. Now I know. Kika calls it the "higher priestess time" (@ 4min: 30sec), when she feels "most powerful with my spirituality, with my way of connecting with the divine..." Having done readings for people at that time myself, I know now not to ignore any "psychic hits" at that time. And I journal whatever insights I get because they will come into play, somehow. In some Native American tribes, women would ritualistically share the psychic information they received during their moontime with the entire community.
HONORING RHYTHMS
My mom, bless her heart, must not have felt comfortable talking to me about periods. Maybe her mom never talked to her about such things, either, I don't know. The only education I got, then, was from school "sex ed" classes ...in an industrialized culture that does everything it can do to disconnect its people from their body/mind connection, and their connection to Mother Earth. However, in my opinion this ought not be the case in a community of pagans. In one of the earliest posts I made in this forum, I talked about menstruation and psychic ability, finding balance during that time, etc. in the post titled, Find Balance. The rhythm of the body is no different than the rhythms of the greater Earth, of the Universe, even. "The Wheel of the Year" is about cycles, and each of our bodies is a microcosm of the greater cosmic cycle.
Visit Kika's site here: tantricsexsecrets.com/for-women/menstruation-pms-secrets-a-map-to-best-sex.html
.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=4FE-vJ8mPqU#!
When I received a link to this video in my email, after reading the title only, I thought it was going to be
something similar to all the "penis enlargement" and "hey there, remember me from Facebook?" spammy
e-garbage I get. I was just about to delete it, but decided to listen to the video a bit. Soon, I was of
the opinion that it has some good advice in it, so I am sharing it here. In her bubbly, Brazilian way, she
shares her own brand of Goddess wisdom.
FOLLOW THAT MAP!
While I'm not advocating sex during menstruation as Kika does, I do think there are some really good suggestions in this video about understanding the menstrual cycle, and what to do during that time. While she keeps bringing the motivation for greater understanding of being just to "have better sex" (probably sells more of her products or services, since "sex sells"), I would hope people watching this have the goal to learn this for the purpose of establishing better quality of life, for everyone involved. I find that people in Western cultures tend to have a perspective of Tantra out of context with its true meaning. It is part of a larger spiritual path and understanding of the universe. So, when I hear people emphasizing "sex tips," I find it kind of cheesy and tend to ignore it.
Anyway, PMS can really ruin the quality of life for a woman, so developing awareness and learning to manage it is important. Recently, a young woman gave me feedback that she now sees the logic in what I had told her a while back about "charting" her cycle, that is, marking it in some kind of calendar. Now, when it's a week prior to the start of it, she knows her thoughts and feelings are going to be exaggerated somewhat, with unexpected ups and downs. She says this has helped tremendously. She said before, when she didn't pay attention to it, it was like a roller coaster. Now she honors those thoughts and feelings, what Kika here calls "hormonal thoughts," without letting them overrun her life, as she tended to before being aware of the difference. Awareness is the key.
PMS affects guys, too. A guy I know has a fiance who is the sweetest girl, but likes to drink frequently, which tends to greatly exacerbate her PMS. She does this huge Jekyll/Hyde mood swing on him once a month. After we talked about it, he began to notice the pattern, like clockwork. He knew what to expect, and tells me now that this awareness brought a lot of peace to their relationship. So guys, pay special attention to the suggestions Kika makes about how to communicate with your women during various times on the menstrual cycle "map." Consider this "insider information"! Note especially the suggestions she makes for Days 22 through 28. It wouldn't hurt to keep a chart in your wallet, or reminders on your phone.
MORE PSYCHIC "AROUND THAT TIME"
Part of the reason you are "more sensitive" right before your period is because you are seeing things for what they really are, and you are calling it like you see it. Because of your heightened psychic sensitivities, you are less-inclined to put on that phoney smilie face and just play along. You are much more likely to become an "oracle," a seer, and tell people what exactly is going to happen if they take a certain course of action. And you see right through people trying to lie to you, and you don't hesitate to call them on it right away. Like Kika says, this is the time when people are going to call you a bitch and whatnot. You are expressing yourself more directly than usual. I think we cry more at that time because we are on "stimuli overload," so it's important to spend time meditating daily (at least 10 mins, more if possible), so we can shake off all that extra "psychic information." Also, we can use that time to make changes in life we don't have the chutzpah to change during the other times in our cycles. Let your greater psychic insight at moontime work for you, not against you.
It was many years into my adulthood before I realized I was more psychic during that week (Days 22 through 28) than any other part of the cycle. I wish I had known that. I would get dreams, premonitions, be highly empathic and hear and feel nearly everything people around me were thinking and feeling, which as you could imagine was overwhelming, to put it mildly. OK, why put it mildly? ...it was a nightmare! I wish I had had someone around me that would have explained to me what I was experiencing. I just knew I had an urge to draw and write about what I was sensing, but I didn't know why sometimes it was more intense than others. Now I know. Kika calls it the "higher priestess time" (@ 4min: 30sec), when she feels "most powerful with my spirituality, with my way of connecting with the divine..." Having done readings for people at that time myself, I know now not to ignore any "psychic hits" at that time. And I journal whatever insights I get because they will come into play, somehow. In some Native American tribes, women would ritualistically share the psychic information they received during their moontime with the entire community.
HONORING RHYTHMS
My mom, bless her heart, must not have felt comfortable talking to me about periods. Maybe her mom never talked to her about such things, either, I don't know. The only education I got, then, was from school "sex ed" classes ...in an industrialized culture that does everything it can do to disconnect its people from their body/mind connection, and their connection to Mother Earth. However, in my opinion this ought not be the case in a community of pagans. In one of the earliest posts I made in this forum, I talked about menstruation and psychic ability, finding balance during that time, etc. in the post titled, Find Balance. The rhythm of the body is no different than the rhythms of the greater Earth, of the Universe, even. "The Wheel of the Year" is about cycles, and each of our bodies is a microcosm of the greater cosmic cycle.
Visit Kika's site here: tantricsexsecrets.com/for-women/menstruation-pms-secrets-a-map-to-best-sex.html
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