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I really want to come out at school but i'm afraid...

Postby nature_in_control » Wed Oct 06, 2010 12:58 pm

Hey guys.

I really want to openly admit to being Bisexual to everyone in my life, But I am afraid what others will think.
Please give any advice!
I am mainly afraid that my dad and his GF and her daughter may not accept me.

Any advice please!

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Postby JBRaven » Wed Oct 06, 2010 1:01 pm

If you feel as if you need to then do it. What is the worse that can happen? They disown you or laugh at your sexuality? If these things scare you wait until you are old enough to be able to tell them and leave back to your own life.
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Postby Witch13 » Wed Oct 06, 2010 2:14 pm

I had the worst treatment at school, and i didnt even say anything, or do! Name calling, the looking and whispering. And now when i meet someone at the street they are all happy and jolly to see me, with the casual "lets go for coffee someday".. sure when i grow a tail!
If you want someone to talk to feel free to pm me! any time.
I am sorry for my negativity, but thats my experiense and i wouldnt want that happening to you :(
whichever your choise
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Postby nature_in_control » Sun Oct 10, 2010 3:43 pm

Well, I just talked to my mum, and told her that I am bisexual, but she says that I am just confused. I Know that I am, but she thinks otherwise, and says that bisexuals, gays and lesbians should keep it to themselves.

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Postby xohannahxo11d7 » Sun Oct 10, 2010 3:49 pm

im sorry. i hate it when people are mean, but sometimes things just take time getting used to. so maybe they just need to get use to the idea and understand. im sorry though. i wish i could be of more help.
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Postby arpgme » Sun Oct 10, 2010 7:19 pm

If you know they won't accept it you probably shouldn't talk about it. No need getting in arguments when they are just going to argue for their limited beliefs. Just know that you are more mature than them and they are just acting like this because they can't accept the truth.

Be yourself and if they ask then just give them a true answer but if not, then just leave it, they are not ready.
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Postby Serendipity » Sun Oct 10, 2010 8:52 pm

I’m not gay so if you want to tell me to shut up that’s fine with me. But, I may have some helpful tips if you’re interested.

Once you come out you can’t take it back. That’s it, you’re out.

That will bring a sense of freedom I’m sure and that would be great I’m also sure. But other things may come too. Unfortunately you’ve seen the news I imagine, telling stories about hate crimes against gays. Are you really sure that you want to deal with butt heads at this point?

Talking with your family is one thing. It would be hard to live in a home where you can’t be who you are, but outside of the home how many people are there where it really matters to you that they know such deep and intimate things about you? You know who you are and your family knows who you are and when the time is right and you’re a little older and have more skills to cope with idiots there will still be plenty of time to come out.

Anyway, for what it’s worth those are some things to think about.

Good luck whatever you decide.
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Postby Victoria Mnemosyne » Mon Oct 11, 2010 2:57 pm

I'm also bisexual, and I'm very selective about who you tell.

I know there's a big movement of "Gay Pride", and "shouting it from the rooftops" and while that's great and takes a lot of courage, it's not the only "right thing to do". For me, this feels comfortable. I don't want being bisexual to be the defining thing about me. I know people who are very forward about it and people who prefer to tell no one at all. I'm comfortable with the middle ground.

My best advice is, if you don't feel ready, don't do it. There's no taking it back. I'm not advising you to be ashamed of who you are- there's ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with being gay or bi! But just like I won't walk into a catholic church and start shouting out that I'm a witch, I prefer not to tell everyone who will listen that I "swing both ways" :wink:

It's up to you. Do what feels right, when it feels right. Then, hope for the best.
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Postby Dragony » Mon Oct 11, 2010 3:15 pm

i think i might have some advice that might help you if you are bisexual and thats what your comfortable with that is what you want. your mother is saying your confused you tell her "ok so your theory is im confused my theory is that im bi, someday when i grow taller older and maturer we will find out who is right you or me" that already shows maturity and thats what sounds like what your mother wants I hate it when parents dont support or explain desicions there children makes and give quick little answers for everything you have a brain too and if you are spiritual meditate on it for a while first.
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Re: I really want to come out at school but i'm afraid...

Postby ivyrose140 » Sun Nov 28, 2010 3:05 am

i say you should tell them you shouldn't be ashamed of who you are and some times people surprise you and your father might not be extremely happy about the whole you being bi thing but you'll never know until you tell him same with the kids at school if they don't like your preferences that's their problem
long story short it will ether be the best thing you ever did or the worst but you'll never know until you find out for your self so tell them
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Re: I really want to come out at school but i'm afraid...

Postby Sythan » Sun Nov 28, 2010 11:35 pm

I came out as being bisexual to my closest most accepting friends first. Now I realize if people dont like it, they can F**k off.
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Re: I really want to come out at school but i'm afraid...

Postby Ember Nightwolf » Sun Aug 28, 2011 11:53 pm

My mum recons I'm just confused to - but that's what usually happens when you tell people your Bi.
My advice is to WAIT AT LEAST 6 MONTHS of being pretty sure you're bi/gay/lesbian before telling people. It's probably quite humiliating "coming out" as bi/gay/lesbian and then having to "come out" again as straight. I find that usually after a while of people deciding their bi, they then find out that their either gay/lesbian or were simply "bi-curious" and are actually straight.
Not that this is always the case, just usually.
It's what happened to both me (knowingly lesbian) and my mate (knowingly gay).
Hope this helps, Blessed be,
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Re: I really want to come out at school but i'm afraid...

Postby EmpathicalRose » Thu Sep 27, 2012 6:34 pm

There are going to be people out in the world, who grew to a certain mentality. And that mentality is the lifestyle that we as "different" people live our lives. There are going to be people who are going to hate you for being you--but that's life, and everyone has their own opoion, so they're entitled to it, however they can't use it to bash you or your life cause its really wrong.

Coming out is all about when your fully ready and comfortable with the fact that people will treat you, for being EXACTLY who you are, regardless of sexual oriention.

When you come out, everyone is going to react, but it's how the reaction you react to them, changes everything.

PM me if you would like to talk more about this.
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