Thanks to both Evanthe and One Walker
I agree that I need to make time and I try to as much as possible. When I do, I agree I feel much better.
I also agree that I have had phases in my life which are around 10 years in length. This is the longest period I have gone in which I have felt very unable to control or change my life circumstances. The last time things were actually peaceful was 2001. Therefore, I am hoping that this phase is coming to a close and I can move back into a more contented period.
I think that in one case, there was/is a formal binding spell, but one done by fundamentalists. In the other cases, I think it was just jealousy but I do believe that persons can do plenty of damage even by just strong intent without ever doing a formal spell or realizing the person is doing spellwork. Kind of like the evil eye.
I have been trying candle magick but I just don't have the physical time or focus to actually do spellwork. I also try to do meditation and visualization when I can. I am just hoping that something will break this cycle. All of us have been feeling this including the kids.
Anyways, thanks again to both of you for responding.