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How do you trust a man who has lied in the past?
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How do you trust a man who has lied in the past?
by vmpl77 » Wed Apr 20, 2011 6:42 pm
Please help i am desperately trying to trust my partner but because he has lied before i am finding it hard. is it possible to forgive and forget??
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Re: How do you trust a man who has lied in the past?
by AutumnMaidens » Wed Apr 20, 2011 6:51 pm
It's possible but is it something you want to do? Listen to your heart, is it worth trusting him now? Will you be able to trust him in the future? Do you resent him for breaking your trust before?
Only you can anwser this question.
Bless
Only you can anwser this question.
Bless
"If you take a copy of the Christian Bible and put it out in the wind and the rain,
soon the paper on which the words are printed will disintegrate and the words will be gone.
Our bible IS the wind and the rain."
soon the paper on which the words are printed will disintegrate and the words will be gone.
Our bible IS the wind and the rain."
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Re: How do you trust a man who has lied in the past?
by missmelodygrace » Thu Apr 21, 2011 8:49 am
My partner lied to me too ... and it is hard it has been almost a year now and I would love to tell you it has been easy but it hasnt.
It will take alot of work on both your parts. As AutumnMaidens said you have to decide if you want to trust him again, you have very right to say 'actually you have blown it I dont trust you and I dont think i ever can' but if you want the relationship then you have to accept it.
Have you discussed the lie ... why did he lie, why did he feel he had to lie and does he understand fully how you feel about it and that lying is wrong.
Once you have these secure in your head then all you can do is give it time...
there will be times that you dont believe what he says and you have to accept you feel like that because of what has happened, and he has to accept that the reason you struggle is because of his lying.
It can be done but there is no quick fix ... I really wish there was.
If you want to talk about it to someone who understands I'm more than happy to chat ... just message me
I hope it works out for you which ever way you go xxx
It will take alot of work on both your parts. As AutumnMaidens said you have to decide if you want to trust him again, you have very right to say 'actually you have blown it I dont trust you and I dont think i ever can' but if you want the relationship then you have to accept it.
Have you discussed the lie ... why did he lie, why did he feel he had to lie and does he understand fully how you feel about it and that lying is wrong.
Once you have these secure in your head then all you can do is give it time...
there will be times that you dont believe what he says and you have to accept you feel like that because of what has happened, and he has to accept that the reason you struggle is because of his lying.
It can be done but there is no quick fix ... I really wish there was.
If you want to talk about it to someone who understands I'm more than happy to chat ... just message me
I hope it works out for you which ever way you go xxx
Laugh your head off, dance in the rain.
Cherish all moments, ignore all the pain.
Live, Laugh, Love, forgive and forget,
Life is too short to live with regret.
Cherish all moments, ignore all the pain.
Live, Laugh, Love, forgive and forget,
Life is too short to live with regret.
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Re: How do you trust a man who has lied in the past?
by Luna Lisa » Fri Apr 22, 2011 12:55 pm
AutumnMaidens wrote :
"It's possible but is it something you want to do? Listen to your heart, is it worth trusting him now? Will you be able to trust him in the future? Do you resent him for breaking your trust before?
Only you can anwser this question."
I would agree with Autumn. You need to do what is best for you and for your well-being. If you love this person do what your heart says. Autumn pretty much summed everything up. But trust is the main element ih a realtionship that holds everything together.
"It's possible but is it something you want to do? Listen to your heart, is it worth trusting him now? Will you be able to trust him in the future? Do you resent him for breaking your trust before?
Only you can anwser this question."
I would agree with Autumn. You need to do what is best for you and for your well-being. If you love this person do what your heart says. Autumn pretty much summed everything up. But trust is the main element ih a realtionship that holds everything together.
As I stare unto the night and look up to the moon and stars.
There is nothing but the light that enters the night.
There is nothing but the light that enters the night.
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