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How to let go of anger?

Postby gentlelamb » Thu Jun 30, 2016 11:52 am

My ex friend hurt me badly, very very badly. But I don't want to be mad about it anymore. I just want to let go of it and stop this toxic energy. If there are spells or excersises I can do to help with this please let me know because I can't go on like this. :anxious:
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Re: How to let go of anger?

Postby SpiritTalker » Thu Jun 30, 2016 12:39 pm

Talk to your inner self and address why you responded with hurt to the situation. Were your expectations realistic? Were there other options you could have let yourself feel? Explore that a little.

Do this as a soft meditation, just quietly and gently sitting with yourself. maybe use some deep regular breaths to relax.

When you're done, take a warm shower with a nice, smelly soap and wash the negativity away. Then have some chocolate, or a favorite fruit to feed the new you.

You will probably always feel differently about that person in the future because your trust is bruised, but you will recover your center and self-confidence.
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Re: How to let go of anger?

Postby Xiao Rong » Thu Jun 30, 2016 8:35 pm

I find that the best way to deal with anger is to work through it and let it run its course, rather than to deny it. Usually anger is an emotion that means that something is off or unfair about a situation you're in -- it's really helpful for knowing when your boundaries have been crossed.

Here's my story. I've found that feeling angry protected me when I was in a horrible and toxic relationship with a family member, by letting me know that something was not right and I was being hurt. No matter how much I wanted to push it away or pretend I wasn't angry, it kept coming back -- in hindsight, I recognize it as a sign from my Deep Self or Goddess Self that I needed to do something about it. I continued to be angry until I managed to get myself out of that situation. Once I was in a safe and healthy point in my life, my anger was no longer a productive and healthy catalyst for change, and it changed to grief.

Are you still regularly interacting with your ex-friend? It's going to be hard to let go of that anger if you are still being hurt by them on a regular basis. I've found that often honoring your anger (listening to the messages it's trying to tell you), letting yourself feel your anger, and channeling it in productive ways (e.g. escaping a bad situation, venting it out through punching a pillow, writing, etc.) is far preferable to just trying to repress it.
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Re: How to let go of anger?

Postby corvidus » Thu Jun 30, 2016 9:09 pm

I find the only way to break a cycle of hatred is with love.

But, what is a cycle of hatred? It's the constant recurring experience as memory and your 'negative' response to it.

For example, when you think about your friend, you get mad. All you have to do is open your heart to your friend and accept her actions as they are, not as you wish they were, nor as what you percieve them to be (no motive, no reasons, just cause and effect).

Do this every time the thought of them makes you angry.

If you feel any outside emotions, send them down the front of your body and deep into the earth to ground them.
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Re: How to let go of anger?

Postby firebirdflys » Fri Jul 01, 2016 12:26 am

Anger usually boils down to hurt or fear.
Recently we have been examining the idea that everyone is doing the best they can with whatever tools (or lack therof) that they have.
Eveyone has given really good advice, in combination with all those ideas, you could do a small ritual of release or burn some bay leaves with words like,

I let go my of anger with ____/replacing it forgivness to myself.
I wish ____all they need in life/I wish love for myself.
I find peace in my heart towards ____.
I realize ____ was doing the best they could.
I accept I was doing the best I could.

Remember that time moves in strange ways when in the throws of anger. Breath, listen intently to the sounds around you with curosity but don't try to answer your curosity just realize it...don't answer it, dont judge it. Time will pass, you will heal and your boundaries will be strong.
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Re: How to let go of anger?

Postby YanaKhan » Sat Jul 02, 2016 1:20 am

This is what I do when I need to get rid of negativity and anger. It helps me a lot, hopefully it'll do it for you too.
When everybody is thinking the same, nobody is thinking enough!
No battle is over until I win!
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Re: How to let go of anger?

Postby SnowCat » Sat Jul 02, 2016 11:29 am

I exercise, clean like it's my absolute favorite thing to do, which it isn't and go for long walks. Doing something physical helps release the tension and negative energy.

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Re: How to let go of anger?

Postby CaramelKitty » Sun Aug 05, 2018 10:49 am

Working out and journaling, Never suppress anger- because eventually u will blow up. Always find activities where u can release .
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Re: How to let go of anger?

Postby CleverlyDisguised » Sun Aug 12, 2018 9:07 pm

As someone who used to suppress and repress his anger and rage from past trauma, I can speak from a place of certainty and experience when I say, DON’T DO IT! Don’t even consider it! It’s a terrible choice that leads you to push away and hurt the ones you should hold close and protect from all the hurts and harms of the world to the best of your ability.
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