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Are there any spells that reveals his true feelings?

Postby milano » Sun Sep 25, 2016 12:02 pm

I wouldn't want to use a love spell on anyone. Not because of being scared of Karma. It's more to do with the fact that I would rather be with someone who loves me without any supernatural force.

There is a guy, who I regularly meet up. He used to be a friend, then things turned to romantic, then he said he just wants to be friends. Mostly we still end up together in his flat... But last night he was very mean to me and very cold. He also told me not to touch him and he basically slept two feet away! :evil:
But in the morning he was much nicer. He hugged me a few times. When I left in the afternoon he almost kissed me on the lips, but I turned my head slightly. Then we had a second hug and then he kissed my neck.

Sooo. I am not sure what's the deal. I would like a spell that would make him sort of commit to me IF he genuinely likes me.
Does anyone know of such spells?
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Re: Are there any spells that reveals his true feelings?

Postby Kassandra » Sun Sep 25, 2016 2:34 pm

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Hi milano. It seems you're asking for two things here. In the title, you are asking for a spell to reveal his true feelings. On the other hand, in your post you're asking for a spell to make him "sort of" (not entirely?) commit to you. These are two different things.

Shouldn't you clarify and confirm the first, before bothering yourself with the second? Suppose his "true feelings" are that he likes the "friends with benefits" arrangement he has with you now, and doesn't want it to change? Maybe that's all he can handle emotionally right now, for whatever reason. Since this is a possibility, a bigger question you might want to ask yourself is could you live with that?

I don't believe that spell work is a substitute for basic human communication and interaction. My suggestion is before getting into any kind of spell work, set aside some time to sit and talk with him. Ask him how he feels about you and where he sees your relationship going in the future. It doesn't seem like you guys have really talked about where you stand with each other.

I do like this thought, though: "I would rather be with someone who loves me without any supernatural force," and I would add that trying to be in a healthy relationship with a hot/cold person like him, can be like trying to hug a cactus. :wink:




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Re: Are there any spells that reveals his true feelings?

Postby milano » Sun Sep 25, 2016 3:16 pm

Jeez. Sorry English is not my first language :oops:
I sat down with him a few times and he told me that he doesn't want a relationship. But then some of his actions don't reflect his words. I know he cares about me, that he likes me, that his eyes lit up when he sees me. But I think he is scared of commitment...
I would like to know the underlying feelings.
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Re: Are there any spells that reveals his true feelings?

Postby Kassandra » Sun Sep 25, 2016 6:04 pm

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Your English is perfect. Your thinking, however, was diverging in two different directions in your post, and in your situation in general, and I was merely pointing it out, that's all. I was trying to help you clarify your intention. In these love spell requests, I pay close attention to language people use. It reveals a lot as to motives and intentions, and how realistic they are or are not being in the situation. As you may have noticed, most members here (understandably) don't like responding to love spell request posts. I know how important relationships are, how they affect every part of one's daily life, for better and for worse. I try to help where I can.

Since he's already told you more than once, straight up, that he doesn't want a relationship with you, I think you could trust that his words really do reflect his "underlying feelings." I know it hurts when someone doesn't feel for you the way you feel for him, and you want to do anything you can to change it to be your way, but sometimes it is what it is, unfortunately. This is similar to a poster who recently requested a spell to make a man "realize he can't live without me," when he was, in reality, living just fine without her. They were together for a while, but he didn't want the relationship with her any more, and that sounds like where you're at, too.

At this point, it seems that as she was, you too are looking for a spell that magically forces him say to you what you'd prefer to hear him say, rather than face the truth. Better, I think, to follow your own policy: "I would rather be with someone who loves me without any supernatural force." I think it is a very good policy to live by.

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Re: Are there any spells that reveals his true feelings?

Postby milano » Mon Sep 26, 2016 6:39 am

Hi Kassandra,

Your last reply to me was great! Thank you for that. It really helped me think clearly and reflect on the situation. I don't want to put a spell on this guy. To be honest, he is really not that great. I don't think he worth the time just collecting the supplies, let alone the energy required to cast a spell. And even if the spell would be successful, then what? I would have him? He is not a jackpot... I don't want to write down all his issues, because the list would be so long.

When I am an outsider of a relationship. For example when I witness my friends dating new guys. I can always clearly see the guy is good or if there are red flags. But when I m in the relationship, it feels like I am blinded. Well not exactly blinded. I see the red flags, but I choose to ignore them. Usually I think that "omg, so much energy was put into this relationship, I am not leaving it!". I downplay them instead of seeing clearly what is going on. I really wish I would be stronger to realize that the guy doesnt worth it. I wish I could see them as clearly as I see my girl friends' exboyfriends.

I keep attracting the wrong kind of guys as well. I want to date with the damaged guys, so I can rescue them. I always think that I can change them, help them and things would be great. "Oh, he is an alcoholic with drug and porn addiction. Let me save him!" Then I end up on the loser side, because he not only doesnt want to be saved, but it is also him who ends the relationship. Making me think like the real loser. :cry: I keep questioning myself about what went wrong. Am I s bad, that a guy, who never had a gf would rather be single then with me.

Do you think its possible that subconsciously we all send out signals? Is it likely that I am sending out the wrong signals and the wrong kind of guys turn up? I wish I could just clearly see the situation as it is..
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Re: Are there any spells that reveals his true feelings?

Postby Kassandra » Mon Sep 26, 2016 8:06 am

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You're welcome, I'm glad the last reply helped. Even the most intuitive people have a hard time with discernment in their own relationships. You're not alone in that. Ironically, the article that I linked to under the cactus hugging girl picture is a pretty good one, don't know if you read it. I just linked to it just to credit the image. But turns out the article is about how we are attracted to unhealthy people because we're used to so much dysfunction around us, and how developing new habits and new self-talk to establish new, healthy relationships feel foreign to us. Check it out if you haven't already.

I think you have a lot of self-insight, self-awareness, which is a huge, huge part of the solution, and many people don't have it, even at advanced ages. You do have it, at a young age and to a large degree, so to me you are way ahead in the game, and just need to develop new habits, that's all. That article says one of the important things we must do is give ourselves time. It takes time. Change like this isn't going to happen overnight, but it can happen, slowly, one experience and one step at a time. And good relationships also are developed over time, too. I think you're going to do great in the long run.

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Re: Are there any spells that reveals his true feelings?

Postby milano » Mon Sep 26, 2016 9:33 am

Fantastic article! I think I also "hate" healthy relationships. There were so many guys in my past who wanted to date me and I kept rejecting them because I just didn't feel anything. The one thing that was common in them that they respected me and were normal. Instead I always chose these horrible men! My local library has a great section on self-help and relationships. So def worth checking those out.

This is an unrelated question: can you please recommend some books on the history of wicca?

I have to admit one thing: I don't believe in magic at all. I am not even sure why I posted the question in the first place. :surprisedwitch: :anxious: :anxious:

I would like to read some books on wiccan religion without spells. Is it ok to practice this religion without believing in magic?

Thanks
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Re: Are there any spells that reveals his true feelings?

Postby Kassandra » Thu Sep 29, 2016 9:38 am

milano wrote:I would like to read some books on wiccan religion without spells. Is it ok to practice this religion without believing in magic?

Why don't you start a new thread in the General Questions forum, since that is a different topic altogether from what's reflected in the title of this thread. I'm sure many would chime in their thoughts on this.

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