I need your help. I was in a relationship with a guy for
a year and a half but then due to some reasons we broke up. But even
after that we are on talking terms.... everything is the same,
except that the words "relationship" and "commitment" are not there.
It's just like before - We talk, we say I love you, we meet, we have
sex, but we are not in a relationship... and I want him back with me
forever..... and also the reason we broke up was that he never use to
give me importance in front of his friends, and this is also happening
now. I want him back and I want him to value me and respect me and my
love. I really can't live without him. I want him for the rest of my
life. Separation or divorce is not an option for me. I hope you
understand what I am going through. And yes, I have also discussed my
problem with him, but he repeats the same thing every time. So please
help me out with this.
I want you to tell me a suitable spell for my
problems which is easy to perform. Also, as I live in India, it's really
difficult to get the occult stuff.
Waiting for your reply.
What he means is that you're important for his sexual gratification,
but not important enough for him to commit to you. Why would he bother
committing to you and dealing with the hassle of having a girlfriend
when he can have sex with you with no obligation?
I think the thing that women usually fail to realize is that sex is THE
single most important thing for the majority of men. Sex is their
motivating force. Sex is the main reason that they put up with the
immature, petty, bitchy behavior of some women. Throughout all of our
tantrums and whining and complaining, they're still hoping that somehow
they'll manage to get laid. As women, it's hard for us to imagine how
a person's sex drive can be such a motivating factor in his life, but if
you just take a look at the animal kingdom, you'll see that
nearly all animals operate in the exact same way. The males are
primarily motivated by sex and all of their actions and behaviors are
designed so that they will achieve copulation with a female.
Even though men desire sex more than anything else, you can't just give
it to them all the time. If you're in a typical relationship where
neither of you is self-aware (consciously allowing Spirit to work through
you at all times) then you are dealing with his ego, not his spirit.
Therefore, it's necessary that you learn how to manipulate his ego
properly. The way to do this will obviously vary depending on the
person, but one general rule that you can follow with men is this:
Men like a challenge.
Don't throw yourself at a man and give him everything he wants. If you
do, he'll think that you're easy. He won't think of you as a
challenge. Why do you suppose your man would want a woman who is so
desperate and needy that she would do practically anything to keep a man
in her life? (He wouldn't!)
You want to make him think that you're worth having and worth waiting
for (because you are). Confident, self-assured women don't allow their
man to disrespect them, put them down, abuse them, or use them for
A strong woman is happy with herself and doesn't mind being alone. If
you can be happy alone, this gives you a huge advantage over men, and
your relationships will thrive because of it. If he knows that you don't
need him, then he'll have to try to win your affection. But if you've made it clear to him that you're lost without him, that you feel
hopeless and lonely when he isn't there, then he knows that he can treat
you any way he wants to, and you'll still be there waiting for him,
since you don't have enough self-esteem to move on and find someone who'll treat you better. For any man to think you are worthy,
you have to think of yourself as worthy first.
This is why it's so important to develop self-love and self-esteem.
you don't like being around yourself, what makes you think that anyone
else is going to enjoy your company? Most likely they won't. I don't say
this to make you feel hopeless. I'm saying it to let you know that you
can decide to fix this problem. You can start now, making positive
changes in your life. There are thousands of books written on this
topic. There are endless numbers of websites and online videos where you
can learn this material for free. If you can get out of your own head
for even a few minutes a day and look at things objectively and with a
calm mind, and spend some time developing your self-esteem through one
of the many methods available, you'll see a huge improvement in all
areas of your life.
The truth is, you have to work on yourself before you'll ever be able
to have a fulfilling relationship with another person. If you feel that
you aren't complete without a mate, then that means that you aren't
complete, period. Having a mate will only make things worse because you'll expect him to complete you. He can't complete you. Only
complete you. Try to meditate daily and allow Spirit to work
through you to create the perfect life for you. This is a conscious
decision that you must make and you have to stick with it, always asking
God/Spirit to guide you and work through you. Eventually, you'll
find that you have become the God of your own life and that you have
control over everything that happens. That's how you create a
better life. Then you'll be able to attract a partner who's on the
same level of consciousness as you, and each of you will be able to give
100% to the other person, resulting in a loving, caring, giving
relationship where both people's needs are met and exceeded. This is the
future of human relationships. I hope to see you there!
P.S. I want to add that when a person is so desperate that they say
things like, "I really can't live without him," that makes me suspect
that you may have lost a part of your soul to this person. In that case,
I would recommend that you look into having a
done in order to get back what was lost. You were probably already weak
when you met this person and that was how you got pulled into an